Did you know there are different types of cheating? As a private investigator, a question we hear every day is “Is my partner cheating on me?” If you are asking this question, you may have suspicions about your partner. After all, infidelity is a complex issue with numerous dynamics involved. First, each relationship “rules” differ. One couple may consider watching porn or texting an ex cheating, while another couple, believes it perfectly OK. As a result of this, individuals in a relationship must create their own boundaries and ideals for a romantic relationship. Without an open line of communication with set rules, infidelity becomes a “gray” area.
Despite particular rules within your relationship, there are certain categories which infidelity falls into. The different type of infidelity affairs we will discuss:
- The emotional affair
- The physical affair
- The fantasy
Although these types of infidelity transpire differently, when secrecy or deception occurs, this becomes grounds for infidelity. Here are the different types of cheating from a private investigator’s perspective.
What Is An Emotional Affair?
By definition, an emotional affair does not include sexual intimacy. An emotional affair occurs when one invests emotional feelings into someone who is not their partner. They begin to receive companionship and emotional intimacy in a new relationship. In other words, this crosses the boundaries of friendship and begins to take a romantic turn. This type of affair can include any romantic feelings towards an individual who is not your exclusive partner.
While it is healthy to have friendships or some sort of emotional relationship outside of your relationship, lines can blur. The key to this turning into an emotional is affair is by not disclosing who you are speaking to. Too often, someone in an emotional affair doesn’t consider this cheating and are guilt-free because no sex is involved. Sadly, this causes the non-cheating partner to feel neglected and suspect trust issues. An emotional affair is about breaking trust and keeping secrets – not the sexual aspect.
Most emotional affairs begin as friendships. These types of affairs typically begin at work, during hobbies, the gym, shopping, or online. They can begin virtually anywhere. Online affairs now happen quite easily, with a person you are attracted to being one click away. Text messaging, emails, and social media all allow for communication to take place faster and in secrecy. This causes the emotional connection to become more intense at a rapid pace. As communication continues in secrecy, the emotional affair continues to grow. The most difficult part of emotional affairs is that they often lead to physical affairs.
The Physical Affair Explained
A physical affair is known as the “traditional” type of affair. Physical affairs by definition are a romantic situation that involves physical contact with an individual other than your partner. In order for it to be a physical affair, some sort of sexual intimacy must occur. It is essential to recognize that physical affairs do not just include sex. Physical cheating can range from romantic touching to sexual intercourse. Therefore, any form of expressing physical attraction or sexual desire outside of your relationship is considered a physical affair. In addition, physical affairs do not always have an emotional aspect. Physical affairs can be gut-wrenching for the individual suspecting their partner is cheating.
The Fantasy Affair: What Is it?
The final type of cheating is the fantasy affair, which is also known as mental cheating. Daydreaming and having different fantasies is normal and can even be considered healthy. Fantasy enters into the infidelity realm when it leads to dishonest and secretive behavior, causing stress on your current relationship. When current fantasies make it difficult on your current relationship, this may become a cause for concern. Fantasy cheating can be expressed through:
- porn addiction
- having a secret life on social media
- hiding financial aspects of your life
- not paying attention to your significant other
- trying to avoid the current relationship you are in
Fantasy affairs are a cause for concern because they cause a strain on one’s relationship. This causes the partner to feel emotional and physical neglect, while the fantasy cheater is checked out.
Which Type of Cheating Is Most Painful?
Which type of cheating hurts the most? Well, it depends. A study published in Evolutionary Psychology polled 447 adults on which type of infidelity is the most painful. The results?
- Two-thirds of women say emotional attachment is more painful than extramarital sex.
- Men have the opposite reaction – preferring their partner to have an emotional affair over a physical one.
As private investigators, we see each type of affair hurting each of our clients in a different manner, causing emotional distress for the victim. Our investigators believe all three types of cheating have different emotional heartbreak. All three of these types of cheating include secrecy, causing heartbreak and trust issues. By not keeping an open line of communication with your partner, a sense of loss occurs in the relationship. If you are seeing something off in your current relationship such as your partner becoming distance or behavioral changes, your partner may be having an affair.
Infidelity Private Investigators and The Types of Affairs We See
Root Investigations infidelity private investigators are here to help you determine if your spouse may be cheating on you. A client will hire one of our private investigators on Long Island to conduct physical surveillance. This helps determine one’s whereabouts.
Infidelity investigations are also known as “domestic surveillance.” Surveillance allows an investigator to disclose if your partner’s whereabouts. Additionally, internal investigations allow our detectives to disclose hidden social media activity and potential hidden assets. If you believe your partner may be having an affair, Root Investigations is here to help you find peace of mind.
In conclusion, these three types of affairs can cause distress to your marriage or relationship. This can cause trust and betrayal issues in all aspects of one’s life. Above all, we recommend being transparent with your partner, discussing what you are OK and not OK with. This will help assist you with having a healthy and successful relationship. As a New York private investigation firm, we are able to tell you once and for all if your partner is cheating.